Comments on: A sad first http://bowilliams.com/2008/09/a-sad-first/ Rarely senselessly vulgar; frequently slightly tacky Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:00:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Terri http://bowilliams.com/2008/09/a-sad-first/comment-page-1/#comment-9420 Terri Wed, 03 Sep 2008 18:35:37 +0000 http://wmwmsblog.com/?p=776#comment-9420 Several years ago, I too "fired" my best friend. We'd been best buddies since high school. We'd shared alot: marriage, birth, divorce, dating again, etc. Fortunately, I was able to move on, find a wonderful husband, re-marry and realize a beautiful life. And believe me, life had sucked alot over the years starting with the death of my mother when I was 11 yrs old. Unfortunately, she continued to wallow in self pity, let her son "run wild" and run roughshod over her, let her sorry ex-hubby degrade and humiliate her and felt guilty when he did. She was miserable because she wanted to be. She just started to be such a drain and it was starting to affect my marriage, my general attitude, etc. I finally just cut her off. It hurt like hell. I still miss her. But, it was for the best at the time and it has turned out to be the best in the long run, but I've yet to find another "real" friend like her. We shared so much over the years. We could talk on the phone for hours or in person, went to chick flicks, drank margaritas, ..... I love my hubby and he really is my best friend, but I sure wish I had a "girl" friend again. Chicks need chicks :-) Sorry - didn't mean to run on like that... Several years ago, I too “fired” my best friend. We’d been best buddies since high school. We’d shared alot: marriage, birth, divorce, dating again, etc. Fortunately, I was able to move on, find a wonderful husband, re-marry and realize a beautiful life. And believe me, life had sucked alot over the years starting with the death of my mother when I was 11 yrs old. Unfortunately, she continued to wallow in self pity, let her son “run wild” and run roughshod over her, let her sorry ex-hubby degrade and humiliate her and felt guilty when he did. She was miserable because she wanted to be. She just started to be such a drain and it was starting to affect my marriage, my general attitude, etc. I finally just cut her off. It hurt like hell. I still miss her. But, it was for the best at the time and it has turned out to be the best in the long run, but I’ve yet to find another “real” friend like her. We shared so much over the years. We could talk on the phone for hours or in person, went to chick flicks, drank margaritas, ….. I love my hubby and he really is my best friend, but I sure wish I had a “girl” friend again. Chicks need chicks :-) Sorry – didn’t mean to run on like that…

]]> By: Bo http://bowilliams.com/2008/09/a-sad-first/comment-page-1/#comment-9336 Bo Wed, 03 Sep 2008 01:32:06 +0000 http://wmwmsblog.com/?p=776#comment-9336 Mrs. Chili, azn8tive: Thanks. It definitely wasn't pleasant, but it was necessary. Of that I am sure. Mrs. Chili, azn8tive: Thanks. It definitely wasn’t pleasant, but it was necessary. Of that I am sure.

]]> By: azn8tive http://bowilliams.com/2008/09/a-sad-first/comment-page-1/#comment-9291 azn8tive Tue, 02 Sep 2008 17:56:25 +0000 http://wmwmsblog.com/?p=776#comment-9291 I've been in a similar situation and it was the hardest thing that I ever had to do. You did the right thing. I’ve been in a similar situation and it was the hardest thing that I ever had to do. You did the right thing.

]]> By: Mrs. Chili http://bowilliams.com/2008/09/a-sad-first/comment-page-1/#comment-9250 Mrs. Chili Tue, 02 Sep 2008 11:21:10 +0000 http://wmwmsblog.com/?p=776#comment-9250 Ooof, but this resonates for me. I am very often the last person in a relationship to see that it's been gone for a while, and I alway kick myself for that. I'm sorry, honey, but it seems you made the right choice. There's only so much you can do on SOMEONE ELSE'S journey, after all. Ooof, but this resonates for me. I am very often the last person in a relationship to see that it’s been gone for a while, and I alway kick myself for that.

I’m sorry, honey, but it seems you made the right choice. There’s only so much you can do on SOMEONE ELSE’S journey, after all.

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